17 Aug, 2019 at 11:15 am
Some of my client’s equate mindset coaching to endurance training, not always entirely pleasant but they come out the other side, more at peace with themselves, more agile and ultimately more resilient. They can recognise their self-deception and start to see choices and decisions more clearly.
For most of my clients the recognition is that as their influence increases, they are required to grow systemically with the level of relational complexity that the organization operates within. The changes required of them are no longer just ‘motivate, task, result,’ based, they are being asked to manage their own internal reality; their cognitive, psychological and conscious development, their mindset.
One way of thinking of this is that each human being has an operating system, their life has lead them to a default ‘way of being’, and seeing the world, challenges opportunities and so on. However business complexity and human dynamics today need an upgraded operating system, one equipped for the complex ask of partnering and sharing collaborative relationships with a talented diverse range of peers. This shift in operating system at times can sit at odds to the way these leaders achieved the level of success they have achieved so far. The inner development of how any of us see self and ‘choose’ to change comes from two things;
So how is mindset coaching different?
Arbinger is based on a unique IP and approach that helps people to see in a different way - to see problems differently, conflicts differently, challenges differently, opportunities differently, each other differently. Until someone begins to see differently old problems remain and opportunities are missed.
I need to discover the gap between where I am and where I want me to be and then fill the gap.
Arbinger coaching also discovers and fills the gap. Where it differs is; the client is coached to see where they may be self-deceived about their behaviours and therefore their reality gap. It also allows them to discover why they have not bridged their gap already or why they self-sabotage attempts to do so. It allows insight into the self-deceptions we are all unable to see.
The objective is; what do I want to achieve for me from my coaching time?
The objective is; what would those around me; my organisation, a new organisation, my customers, my direct reports, my peers and other people in my key relationships want me to achieve from my coaching time and how does relate to the way I currently work?
The results, well let me let one of my clients tell you;
“I would consider myself a fairly self-aware person but even from the first session Gill helped uncover some habitual ways of thinking which were not helping me. She has a knack of getting under the skin of things in a way that makes you feel supported, listened to and excited about how change is possible. I’ve left every session feeling more empowered and more aware of how the things I do can impact other peoples’ reactions and ways of working with me. I would thoroughly recommend Gill to anyone and everyone lucky enough to have discovered her!”
Commercial Director, Retail Organisation